Cherishing Others

The sacred nature of relationships

• When we lose sight of each other as sacred souls on a sacred journey, then we cannot see the purpose behind all relationships. The purpose of a relationship is to decide what part of ourselves we would like to experience and express - not what part of another we can capture and hold. Not to have someone to complete us but to have another with whom to share our completeness. N. D. Walsch

• When I see others in need, I allow myself to use the illusion to express the part of myself that I choose to experience. But be clear that I never do anything for another. Everything I do I do for myself. That is because the self is all there is . In this way, there is no resentment. N. D. Walsch

• I love you, not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you. Roy Croft
  Quality relationships are built on principles - especially the principle of trust. And trust grows out of trustworthiness, out of the character to make and keep commitments, to share resources, to be caring and responsible, to belong, to love unconditionally. Stephen Covey

• Perhaps God is in the space between people as they try to connect. Before Sunrise
  Love is but the discovery of ourselves in others, and the delight in the recognition. Alexander Smith

• Young lovers seek perfection. Old lovers learn the art of sewing shreds together and of seeing beauty in a multiplicity of patches. American Quilt

• We come to love, not by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.

The gift of friendship

• From quiet homes and first beginnings, Out to the undiscovered ends, There's nothing worth the wear of winning, But laughter and the love of friends. Hilaire Belloc

• It's the friends you can call up at 4 am that matter. Marlene Dietrich

• Love is blind; friendship closes its eyes.

• What is a friend? A single soul dwelling in two bodies. Aristotle

• And what is as important as knowledge, asked the mind. Caring and seeing with the heart, said the soul. Flavia Weedn

• A sorrow shared is half a trouble, but joy that's shared is joy made double. English proverb

• Let there be spaces in your togetherness. Kahlil Gibran

• It is better to have one person working with you than three people working for you.

Finding and cherishing the beauty in others

• Every person is special, unique and deserves respect. Learn to see beyond what people see in themselves. Everyone has the seeds of greatness in them and you empower people by seeing beyond their imperfections and problems to their potential, their depth, their inner beauty and their possibilities. John Kehoe

• Is the tulip superior to the rose? Are the mountains more majestic than the sea? Which snowflake is the most magnificent? Is it possible that they are all magnificent - and that, celebrating their magnificence together, they create an awesome display. See the beauty and the wonder of all whose lives you touch. For you are each wondrous indeed, yet no- one more wondrous than another. And you will oneday melt into Oneness, and know then that you form together a single stream N. D. Walsch

• A man is like a bit of labrador spar, which has no lustre as you turn it in your hand, until you come to a particular angle, then it shows deep and beautiful colours. Emerson

• When you see others who appear separate from you, look at them deeply. Look into them. Do this for a long moment and you will capture their essence. And you'll meet you, waiting there. N. D. Walsch
  

Affirming others

• Affirm each person you meet. Feed positive energy to your friends and family. The waitress after a meal. The taxi driver. The letter carrier. John Kehoe

• See God in everyone and help everyone to see God in themselves. N. D. Walsch
  The greatest good you can do for another is not just to share your riches, but to reveal to him his own. Benjamin Disraeli

• Flatter me, and I may not believe you. Criticize me, and I may not like you. Ignore me, and I may not forgive you. Encourage me, and I may not forget you. Sir William Arthur

• Treat people as if they were what they ought to be and you help them to become what they are capable of being. Johann W. von Goethe

• The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated. William James
  A candle loses nothing by lighting another candle.

• A person's greatest emotional need is to feel appreciated. Life's Little Instruction Book
  Wise sayings often fall on barren ground; but a kind word is never thrown away. Sir Arthur Helps

• A woman wants to be cherished - to be loved and accepted for who she is. Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.
  

Accepting others

• Love is the ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves, without any insistence that they satisfy you. Dr Wayne W Dyer

• True love requires nothing. N. D. Walsch

• Truly loving another means letting go of all expectations. It means full acceptance, even celebration of another's personhood. Karen Casey

• I allow myself and those around me the freedom to be as they are. I do not rigidly apply my idea of how things should be. I do not force solutions on problems. Deepak Chopra

• You will not see in yourself that which is Divine until you forgive that which you believe is not. And you will be unable to behold the divinity in another unless and until you do the same. Forgiveness is the expander of perception. N. D. Walsch

Listening

• Nurture a genuine interest in others. You can make more friends in two months by becoming really interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you. Dale Carnegie

• Breathe before you speak. Pause - breath - after the person to whom you are speaking is finished. Richard Carlson

• A good listener is not only popular everywhere, but after a while he gets to know something. Wilson Mizner

• There is only one rule for being a good talker: learn to listen. Christopher Morley

• Listening is a magnetic and strange thing, a creative force. The friends who listen to us are the ones we move toward. When we are listened to, it creates us, makes us unfold and expand. Dr. Karl Augustus Menninger

• Become a better listener and a more peaceful person by slowing down your responses. Don't fire back your response. Wait for the person you are listening to finish. You'll notice that the pressure you feel is off. Richard Carlson

• Seek first to understand. Be more interested in understanding others and less in having other people understand you. Stephen Covey
  

Giving

• Wherever I go, and whoever I encounter, I will bring them a gift. The gift may be a compliment, a flower, or a prayer. Today I will gratefully receive all the gifts that life has to offer me. The gifts of nature, sunlight and the sounds of birds singing. Deepak Chopra

• Each day, I make a difference to someone's life.

• Spend a moment everyday thinking of someone to love. Who shall I send love to today? Gear your mind towards love. Even if it just to wish them a day filled with love. Richard Carlson

• My heart expands to embrace others. And so I help because I want to. To lend a hand, an ear, give some time, concern, money - whatever seems appropriate. As I lose myself momentarily in service to others, I am nourished & find a nurturing inner peace. I let my heart breathe & beat for more than just myself. I become the vehicle through which the Great Mystery showers gifts upon others, because so many gifts have been showered upon me. Every act of kindness becomes a prayer. John Kehoe

• Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared. Buddha

• Make service an integral pat of your life. Ask yourself at the start of the day "How can I be of service?" The best way of being of service is often very simple - it's those little, quiet, often unnoticed acts of kindness that I can choose on a daily basis - being supportive.

• Every day, tell at least one person something you like, admire or appreciate about them. Richard Carlson

• Practice random acts of kindness and senseless acts of beauty. Pay for the person behind you at toll booths.

• No one is useless in this world who lightens the burdens of another. Charles Dickens

• Each of us has a gift, a talent to give back to the world. It may be small or large, it does not matter. The sacred song is our unique gift, our purpose, & each of us was born to discover & share it with the world.

• Meaning is in contribution, in living for something higher than self. Stephen Covey

• One turning point amid life’s lessons comes when we receive an acknowledgement of gratitude from someone who may or may not know us. Something clicks inside of us and we realise we are contributing something. Suddenly we realise that our life really matters and we have found a life path that will feed more than just the brain and ego; it will feed our heart and our soul. An influx of energy bursts through us, and we enjoy a sense of satisfaction, spiritual accomplishment and self- esteem. These feelings gather together to create a kind of magical synchronicity. We begin going with that flow rather than paddling up stream. We begin to flow with an unseen force ‘Dancing the Dream’ Jamie Sams

What you give, you become (receiving through giving)

• Be the source. If you want joy, give joy to others. If you want love, learn to give love. The easiest way to get what you want is to help others get what they want. Deepak Chopra

• From the soul's perspective, both helpee and helper are just hanging out together - complementary roles in a dance. Without helpees, what would the helpers have to do? Susan Jeffers

• It is in sharing the most, not gathering the most, that the most is received. N. D. Walsch
  The more you give, the more you receive because you keep the abundance of the universe circulating in your life. Deepak Chopra

• However little of anything you have, you can always find someone who has less. Find that someone and give to them from the abundance that is yours. Seek not to be the recipient of anything but to the the source. That which you wish to have , cause another to have. That which you hope to experience, cause anther to experience. For what you give you become. And in so doing, you will realise that you have had these things in your possession all along. N. D. Walsch

• Be what you are looking for and what you are looking for will find you. What you seek from another, give to another. That which you wish to experience from another, cause another to experience. N. D. Walsch

• There is a wonderful, mystical law of nature that the three things we crave most in life - happiness, freedom and peace of mind - are always attained by giving them to someone else.